Those damn jeans...

The battle of weight and size and how you are supposed to look is nauseating and appears to be never ending beginning who the hell knows when...middle school? elementary school? Whatever the case, we need to break this vicious routine of beating ourselves up for our body size, shape, appearance in general. I am no stranger to roller coaster scales. I was a varsity athlete in high school followed by a love affair with pizza and beer during my first two years of college. Let's just say the "freshman 15" was a little bit more like "freshman 50". Through this process, I obviously needed to do some deep meditation to find self love and am happy to say after two pregnancies and massive fluctuations of weight, I have realized what a fluid process your exterior can take and how solid you are capable of keeping your insides.

Ideally, we like to think that as long as we are in this 1-2 pound range, then we are where we want to be. Or unfortunately, like I hear many and how I used to talk to myself, I just need to lose 10 more pounds, 20 more pounds, 50 more pounds! But guess what, no I'm not going to say, forget your goals, stay exactly as you are. Health is fabulous. Work hard to feel good, stay active and eat healthy but we have to stop punishing ourselves in the process. Do you have any idea how grand it feels to pull on a pair of jeans, button them comfortably, and have them hug the curves of your body perfectly? No? Then you are punishing yourself. Do you have any idea how empowering it is to wear clothing that does not distract you from enjoying your life, focusing on what's in front of you? No? Then you are punishing yourself. If you have clothing in your closet that is hurtful to wear, a struggle to button, then yes, maybe at one point you were able to wear it but just because something in your life has happened that has changed your physique, you do not need to force yourself to wear them now. IT IS OK TO WEAR CLOTHING THAT FITS YOUR BODY REGARDLESS OF THE NUMBER!

This is more for my ladies out there, but this evening I'm watching Eat, Pray, Love with a hearty glass of wine. (tipsy blogging-yes). There's a line where Julia Roberts is asking her friend if at any moment after she undresses in front of a man, does he excuse her from the room. No, because he's one lucky bastard to have a naked lady standing in front of him.

We have to stop worrying about what we look like and start realizing what we have to experience.