Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined.

“Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined. Go out into the world, leave distractions behind.”

Post inspired by this video-
http://blog.petflow.com/a-video-everyone-needs-to-see/#eQbAvVllb2tTpbql.01

 I realize as I begin this post the hypocrisy of it all but the reality is that this message may not get to as many as I’d like without the use of social media and technology. Obviously this is not an original thought with being inspired by this video and we’ve heard many make an effort to highlight the fact that we lack actual physical interaction with the ease and comfort of typing our thoughts onto a screen rather than sharing them in person. Again, please know that I recognize the hypocrisy. This video has been circulating Facebook for quite some time and I always passed by it to get a quick glance of the next breaking news post someone posted underneath it. Turns out, it really gives a nice wake up call to how much time we spend on our screens rather than interacting.

 My post is not another groundbreaking wake up to get off social media but to rather look at how we feel based on using social media. I look at it as a drug or any other stimulant that anyone is very capable of getting addicted to but can also be ok in moderation. … not like heroin or meth. (“But my therapist said meth in moderation was ok!”) No. I’m talking about a parallel of a glass of wine in the evening. We feed into social media because it rewards us for positive things that we say. We instantly get affirmed with a “like” or a comment telling us exactly what we are hoping to hear. Just like any other addiction, I challenge you to evaluate what you are seeking when posting to social media and what might be missing in your daily life that you feel you like affirmation from the world. Let me again recognize that I am not on any pedestal and that this whole concept is a challenge for me as well.

 To make another comparison, health food vs. junk food. As much as I would like to say this is no challenge for me either, I’d be lying. I have experienced that eating correct portions of healthy foods rather than binging on double stuffed Oreos (sweet mother of pearl I just got a craving), makes me feel a thousand times better in the long run. Just as when I sit on social media and maybe get a “like” or two or three…or four…HOW MANY MORE CAN I GET! I instantly get gratified with the response and endorphins start firing and I’m rewarded and I want to do it again. Just like any other instant gratification…this fades and I’m waiting around for the next moment to get a hit. Just like drugs, just like double stuffed Oreos. I need to make the conscious decision to socialize, have coffee with a friend, listen to what is happening in someone elses' life, go for a run, take my dog for a walk, or play with my daughter. These activities, like eating my vitamins and protein or going to be sustainable and long lasting. Leaving me with a sense of fulfillment rather than waiting for my next hit of instant gratification.

 What if you don’t have a dog, or a child, or a partner or even friends? Put yourself in an opportunity to create those connections. I know this may be difficult but it’s worth the challenge. And if you are having trouble with that, I bet a therapist would be wiling to help you along the way ☺